Thursday, June 14, 2007

Comparisons

I was going through another fellow blogger's post on comparisons between babies....
Its a very natural thing....If I have an apple for tiffin.. and my friend has one too.. I will try and see if hers is redder ....If a friend of mine goes and buys a saree from the same shop where I bought my similar one.. I will ask her how much she got hers for... if it was more than I would feel satisfied... or quite thrilled.. and if it was for less I would feel cheated and upset....
So in otherwords..we always compare... either consciously or sub consciously...its human nature...
I have my mum and aunt breathing down my back nagging me about potty training Joy.. according to mum... I was potty trained by 6 months...or something like that.. and my brother was from day one... ( I don't believe a word of this... but whatever!!!) Whenever anyone sees Joy in his diaper.. they ask me..." he isn't always in a diaper ? is he?"
I honestly don't know why everyone is so concerned... Joy is our son.. we naturally have his best interests in mind.. and also are trying to do the best for him....
No he isnt potty trained..and Yes he is always in a diaper.. except for his bath time... so what....??
I have decided not to potty train him...
He will learn by himself...till then Diaper zindabaad...tellme honestly .. how many teenagers or even 10 year olds do you know who are not potty trained...or who crap in their pants.. ( sometimes mishaps happen.. hell they can happen to the best of us...)
Well if no one teaches them. they learn by them selves... off late a number of my friends have told me that their kids learnt themselves at around 2 years... thats fine by me... by the age of 2 .. a child can speak...by then hopefully and also therefore will be able to communicate their needs....I will just have to teach my child that the horriblly uncomfortable and squishy feeling that happens after potty is called Potty.. so they should either tell me before it happens.. or they will have to deal with the mess.. bas..I have a feeling one or two mishaps and they will figure it out by themselves...
The other thing... that keeps bugging me is this question...of why I keep my son in diapers all day.... well... Joy has got a rash just once touch wood..and that too only for a day.. he is 9 months old now... we change him frequently.. and now in summer I ensure that that frequency has increased...he is at peace and we are at peace.. I thought the keyword of the times... was Peace.. Man.... well so... yes!!! Peace Man!!!!
I have the whole world asking me if Joy has started teething....
well he supposedly started at three months... his gums turned white... I was asked to give him Calcera Phos...did that...I was made to buy hajaar teethers.. etc.... did that as well...rubbed clove oil did everything.... and yes he had started biting me like hell.... But.... no teeth..and still no teeth and he is 9 months old...
Now the husband and I aren't bothered...but..we have this couple who are friends.. and their sweet lil daughter is just 6 days younger than Joy... yes 6 days!!! and she has 2 teeth... and the third on the way... she started crawling before him... she ,I am sure will start walking before him as well...she even started sleeping through the night ages ago..... Joy is still problematic...
I sometimes compare Joy and this lil child.... and keep looking down at Joy with a worried look when he hasn't reached the milestones .. she has.... so I fret...sulk a bit.. get a little worried.. and then I come home and look at myself and feel like giving myself a shake... what is wrong with me!!!?????
Let Joy be.... he is a good healthy child... his doc assures me ..that he is doing fine( touch wood)....he hasn't fallen sick or had any such problems other kids might have at his age....( touch wood.. and I hope no lil kids are sick ever)......So why was I acting like a complete buffoon....?????????
Joy was fine....I had better chill....
I have taken a vow not to compare at all... I know... this vow will be broken everyday... but I shall try....
So all those of you who do the same... well... don't worry about it... its natural... and if we didn't have these lil faults... we would be GOD.... na??


4 comments:

SS said...

You have the right attitude and that's a very good thing.
Regarding the teeth, my son got his first tooth only at 11.5 months. He is 18 months now and his teeth are just fine.
Several people/ elders say that cutting your first tooth late is a good thing because it ensures strong teeth :)

the mad momma said...

yes! let Joy be.. he is a gorgeous baby and i dont like you comparing my son in law to other babies.

Trishna Chaudhuri said...

Ok.. MM.. will not.. but since you mentioned son -in-law,,, let me remind you that the 20th is jamai shoshti.... the day the mother in law treats the son-in-law...and also sends loads of gifts for him....and also his family members.....specially his mother...ahem... so sweetie... am home the whole of next week... send everything ever whenever convenient..ok

Asha said...

hi,

have been a silent reader till now. just wanted to say that, as long as joy is healthy, don't worry about anything else. The rest will follow.